MARRIAGE & FAMILY
Marriage is covenant, discipleship, stewardship, truth, repentance, service, and grace lived in the closest human relationship. These free teaching guides are designed to help couples understand Scripture, examine themselves honestly, and practice faithful love under Christ.
FREE TEACHING LIBRARY
These are not worksheets for proving what your spouse is doing wrong. They are biblical teaching tools designed first for self-examination, gospel clarity, wise conversation, and practical obedience.
Free for personal, church, small-group, and counseling-preparation use. Please do not resell or alter for redistribution without permission.
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The Gospel of Grace and the Life It Creates
Start with the mercies of God before moving to the commands of God. This study follows the argument of Romans from our need for grace through justification, union with Christ, the work of the Spirit, and the worshipful obedience that grows from mercy. It is the theological starting point for the marriage and family teachings that follow.
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By Andros WhitbyGospel & Grace · Foundations
Before Paul calls believers to offer their lives to God in Romans 12, he unfolds the mercies of God. Explore sin, justification, union with Christ, life in the Spirit, and the grateful obedience that grows from grace.
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By Andros WhitbyFatherhood, Stewardship & Gospel Rest
A biblical teaching for fathers on faithful responsibility without functional messiahship. Explores provision, sacrifice, limits, rest, overfunctioning, repentance, wise boundaries, and the freedom to trust Christ with what only Christ can carry.
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By Andros WhitbyBiblical Parenting · Neurodivergence & Grace
A gospel-centered teaching for parents on God’s providence, seeing each child beyond expectations, attention and learning differences, the Holy Spirit’s help, and practical care for families and churches.
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By Andros WhitbyExpanded Study · Second Edition
A full biblical theology of marital oneness from creation to the marriage supper of the Lamb. Explores leaving, holding fast, one flesh, covenant, differentiated unity, the gospel, shared mission, and a practical pattern for repair.
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By Andros WhitbyConcise Study
A concise study of God-created marital oneness: leaving and cleaving, one flesh, covenant loyalty, distinct personhood, moral responsibility, safety, shared life, and marriage as a witness to Christ and the church.
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By Andros WhitbyConflict & Repair
A gospel-centered framework for separating expression, perception, interpretation, intent, impact, and heart response in conflict. Includes trauma-sensitive guardrails, precise repentance, healthy boundaries, and repair fitted to the actual rupture.
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By Andros WhitbySeven Biblical Principles
Seven biblical principles for exposing the root beneath relational fruit: agreement, truth, renewal, wisdom, confession, self-examination, and consistent measures. Includes a practical Root-to-Fruit framework for reflection and counseling preparation.
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By Andros WhitbyTruth, Mercy & Boundaries
Clarifies the difference between biblical grace and help that unintentionally protects dysfunction. Addresses weakness versus unwillingness, forgiveness and trust, boundaries, consequences, repentance, and the gospel shape of genuine mercy.
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By Andros WhitbyLove, Respect & Partnership
A careful study of shared covenant goods and distinctive responsibilities without reducing husbands and wives to stereotypes. Covers love, respect, honor, faithfulness, sexual mutuality, provision, stewardship, companionship, and Christ as the first source of security.
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By Andros WhitbySubmission, Initiative & Stewardship
A focused teaching on a wife’s active covenant partnership under Christ: submission, initiative, ownership, reliability, repair, and shared stewardship. It rejects both passive dependence and controlling resistance.
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By Andros WhitbyChristlike Love & Covenant Leadership
A gospel-centered exposition of Ephesians 5:25–33 on sacrificial love, nourishing and cherishing care, faithful leadership, repentance, and the limits of a husband's responsibility.
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By Andros WhitbyMarriage Discipleship · Weekly Covenant Stewardship
A gospel-centered teaching on seven areas of shared covenant life: Christ, Conflict, Connection, Children, Chores, Calendar, and Cash. Includes confession and repentance as a bridge to faithful conflict repair.
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By Andros WhitbyPractical Worksheet · Weekly Marriage Meeting
A two-page companion guide with space for prayer, confession, connection, parenting priorities, chores, calendar plans, financial stewardship, and clear commitments for the coming week.
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By Andros WhitbySeven-Day Devotional · Women’s Discipleship
A gospel-centered devotional inviting Christian wives to grow in identity in Christ, biblical wisdom, gentleness, holiness, and faithful love. Includes complete Scripture passages, reflection, prayer, and practical steps rooted in grace.
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By Andros WhitbySong of Songs · Mutual Intimacy & Grace
An exegetical teaching on mutual marital pursuit, willing intimacy, desire, consent, sacrificial love, and shared responsibility under the gospel of grace.
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By Andros WhitbyChrist-Shaped Service
Applies the mind of Christ in Philippians 2 to marriage. Because Christ is Lord, husband and wife can reject entitlement, scorekeeping, rivalry, and self-protection and instead serve sacrificially without making either spouse the other’s master.
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By Andros WhitbyGrace for an Ordinary Frustration
A practical example of gospel formation in an ordinary marriage frustration. Helps the late spouse own impact without shame and the waiting spouse speak truth without accusation, with concrete planning, patience, prayer, and repair.
HOW TO USE THE LIBRARY
Read the biblical argument before jumping to the questions. Notice what the text actually says, what the teaching infers, and what guardrails are included.
Ask where Christ is calling you to truth, repentance, wisdom, service, boundaries, or changed behavior before diagnosing your spouse.
Use the reflection questions for prayer, couple conversation, discipleship, or counseling preparation rather than trying to resolve an entire marriage in one sitting.
These resources are designed for relationships operating in relative good faith. They should never be used to minimize violence, threats, coercive control, sexual violation, child endangerment, criminal conduct, or serious danger. In those situations, safety and qualified outside help come before ordinary communication exercises.
NEED MORE THAN A RESOURCE?
If a teaching raises questions your marriage cannot resolve on its own, request care from The Whitby Foundation. Our goal is not to replace the local church or qualified professional care, but to help couples take a faithful next step.
